I just want to bring something to y’all’s attention.
I want to thank even the people on here that don’t like me on TikTok.
They have a little, um, I don’t know, a little bit of compassion.
So, you see the TikTok of my granddaughter.
I thought she did great.
All of y’all thought she did great.
And the people that don’t, they kept it to theirself.
She’s only 9 years old. Okay?
To the Instagrammers out there that come on my page to cut me down:
I can take that.
But when you come after my granddaughter and talk about her belly,
you should be ashamed of yourself.
Just a little info for you: God bless you because she has a kidney disease, like her mom.
And, um, what kind of person goes around cutting down kids anyway?
Crown of thought: do better.
That kid isn’t doing that to you. And I ain’t either.
But I can take it.
She’s a child. Just do better. We love you. God bless.
Although I do respect Angela’s approach—the fact that she hasn’t come out, you know, raving and ranting, screaming, and all that kind of stuff—
I will say this though, okay?
First and foremost, I think the comment for somebody to just come out and say that,
you know, the child could be healthier—I don’t really feel like the comment itself
is necessarily a bad comment or one that was meant in a very horrible way, personally.
Reason being is because you see, folks, here’s the thing:
I feel like in life, okay, we are told that it’s not what we say—no, not that it’s not what we say—but how we say it.
But people also forget something very, very key.
Sometimes in life, it doesn’t matter how we say something.
What matters is how the person receives it.
In fact, I will say how the person receives it probably matters more than how the person says it, depending on the situation.
Right? So, the point that I’m trying to make here is that:
Somebody’s obviously seen this video, okay, of Angela’s granddaughter.
And when they’ve seen the image, they’ve thought to themselves,
“Well, hold on a minute.
Angela Deem had a history of being obese.
Her daughter, you know, the mother of her kids, isn’t exactly in the best of shapes.
And they maybe looked at it in other aspects as well and thought,
‘You know what, it looks like this child may be raised in an environment where she’s been overfed.'”
And of course, not everybody’s going to have the assumption
that they’re going to know that this child has some sort of bigger condition going on, okay?
For me personally, I think it was a good thing that somebody said something.
Could they have said it in a better way? Potentially.
But again, it’s about how you receive it.
And the reason why I say it’s about how you receive it is because, see, in this video here,
Angela could have been like:
“Listen, I understand that someone or some people had some concerns about how my granddaughter looks, okay?
But I can rest assured you that it’s not the fact that she’s not being fed well.
It’s the fact that she actually has a medical condition—the same medical condition as her mother.
And because of that medical condition, this is why she is the way she is,
which is also why my daughter is the way she is.”
Now, if you all had the assumption that maybe my daughter and her
are overweight because of maybe myself and the way I was—
No, no, no.
It’s due to these things.
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Because in that position, right, Angela is then acknowledging:
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That somebody was commenting, not necessarily out of hate for the child.
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Or to comment just because they don’t like Angela in particular.
She could have just been like,
“Okay, cool. You know what?
Maybe this person is just trying to raise concerns.”
So, therefore, I’m just going to let them know the situation,
but also let them know that I took no offense to what they said.
And I do appreciate that they were concerned with my grandchild.
Because the thing is, we live in a world where a lot of things go over people’s heads.
A lot of things happen in front of our eyes, and people are afraid to speak up
because they’re afraid of who they may offend.
You know what I mean? Which, in reality, people shouldn’t be in that position.
I mean, hopefully not. I hope nobody’s been in this position,
but I’m pretty sure a lot of us have been in a situation
where we’ve been around somebody, seen the way their child has been raised,
and thought, “Something needs to be said.”
Or we’ve been around people and seen how our friend has been treated by their partner.
We’ve been like, “Maybe we need to say something.”
Or we’ve seen how our friends have been treated by their own parents,
and we think, “Something’s up.”
But the problem is, a lot of us don’t say anything because we’re afraid—
afraid of the consequence of speaking up.
Because the consequence of speaking up could be that you may lose that person as a friend or whatever.
But it is what it is. At least you spoke up and brought awareness, you know what I mean?
Hopefully, that person can recognize what you’re saying,
and then boom, bam, things get better.
Do you see what I’m saying?
So just, yeah, be aware of that stuff.
Nonetheless, though, let me know your thoughts, you know, and we’ll talk about it.
