Which is a big deal. Are you going to start worrying in three days a week and have to get tested in 30 days?
I thought you said that when I come to America, you’ll be back, and we’ll be monogamous?
Yeah, as long as we’re being intimate. You know, we’re not… you know.
The way this guy said that, though—listen—you know what? He’s being honest. As long as you and I are intimate, then you don’t have to worry about me going elsewhere.
So, I respect that honesty. Because to be fair, a lot of men, when they’re with their partner, intimacy is such a key thing. For a lot of us men—unless you’re Gino—then that’s a different conversation. You know what I’m saying? There’s always an exception to the rule.
So, I do respect him for making it clear. But of course, the context also has to be understood. One of the reasons this man was living this poly lifestyle was because Douglas—who he met at the time—was unable to be with him on this date.
Therefore, he wanted to have an open relationship, so at least when he wasn’t with Douglas, he could get his needs met. And of course, now it’s the same thing. Before, when Douglas was able to come to the States, it was pretty much the same situation. You know what I mean?
He wanted to make sure his needs were met. But now, obviously, Lea is in the States, and Lea is like, “Listen, boom bam. You told me once I’m here, everything will be A-OK.”
Okay, blah. So to be honest, at first, I was like, “This guy is being a bit too much.” But if I go back to what went down in the previous season of Love in Paradise, it was abundantly clear that he’s somebody who needs physical touch all the time.
And when I say physical touch, I’m not referring to the actual love language—that’s a different thing. He’s somebody who needs sᴇxᴜᴀʟ touch. Like, obviously, more times than he should, which is kind of crazy.
Because for a man of his age, he’s got energy. You know what I’m saying? Man’s testosterone is still pumping. Is he stocked up on the blue pills? What’s going on here?
I’m not going to lie, though, I low-key respect the fact that at his age, he still wants to… unless, of course, he’s the bottom. Then that’s a different conversation because if he’s the bottom, he doesn’t have to worry too much about him.
Oh, I didn’t think of that.
Either way, though, man likes to know that he’s going to be getting his sᴇxᴜᴀʟ royalties happening a lot. That’s why he wanted an open relationship.
And he did promise that once she came here, it would change. So I guess this is him saying, “Listen, maybe I didn’t say this before, but I’m just letting you know that I’m more than happy to just be with you—as long as you give me what I want.”
Oh boy. I mean, to be fair, a statement like that could easily rub a lot of people the wrong way because it might be implied or taken in different ways.
You know what I mean? Someone might think, “Well, because Lea has now moved to America and you’re paying for everything, you think you’re entitled to always getting your treats—as if she’s a paid service.”
Some people might look at it that way, which is a possibility. But either way, the man spoke his truth. It’s up to Lea what she wants to do.
He’s saying, “As long as we’re relating to each other sᴇxᴜᴀʟly, I’m happy.”
This makes me have a lot of questions, like—is he still feeling attracted?
Yeah, he wouldn’t say that he wants to always be intimate with you if he wasn’t attracted to you. I know his English is a bit bad, but that’s not hard to understand.
Listen, if he said what Gino says—“I don’t want to have intimacy with you unless you do this, da-da-da,”—then yeah, that would tell you he’s not attracted to you.
But what he’s saying shows he is attracted.
Lea does say, after this, that she is looking to have the full work done at some point—or at least that’s what she insinuates. She says, “I understand he obviously likes men and worries that once everything is completely transitioned, then…”
But that’s the thing, though. If you’re aware of this, Lea, then why are you wasting your time with him? You should be finding someone who wants to support your full journey.
To me, if I wanted to change my body and have surgery, I’d want someone who’s fully on board with that.
This storyline doesn’t fully add up.
Let me know if you’d like further refinements!
